5 WAYS TO LOVE ANOTHER PERSON


(FRIENDSHIP)

1-TOUCH

2-PRAISE/AFFIRMATION

3-SPEND TIME TOGETHER
(Quality vs. Quantity)

4-GIFTS

5-DO THINGS FOR THIS PERSON
(Mutual Goals/Objectives)

EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT

1-BE UNDERSTANDING (Not Selfish)
(Empathize-try to put yourself in the other person's shoes)
2-MAKE & KEEP PROMISES
(Don't Break Them)
3-BE KIND/COURTEOUS/CONSIDERATE
(Not Unkind/Discourteous/Inconsiderate)
4-CLARIFY EXPECTATIONS
(Don't Violate Them)
5-BE LOYAL-especially to the absent
(Not Disloyal/Duplicitous)
6-APOLOGIZE
(Rather than Prideful/Arrogant/Conceited)
7-BE OPEN TO FEEDBACK
(Rather than rejecting feedback)

INGREDIENTS OF FRIENDSHIP

Psychology Today had more than 40,000 people participate in a survey on friendship in America in 1979. The question asked was "How important to you is each of these qualities in a friend?" The numbers below represent the percentage of respondents who said the quality was "very important" or "important."

Keeps Confidences 89%
Loyalty 88%
Warmth, Affection 82%
Supportiveness 76%
Frankness 75%
Sense of Humor 74%
Willingness to make time for me 62%
Independence 61%
Good Conversationalist 59%
Intelligence 57%
Social Conscience 49%
Shares Leisure Interests 48%
Shares Cultural Interests 30%
Similar Educational Background 17%
About my Age 10%
Physical Attractiveness 9%
Similar Political Views 8%
Professional Accomplishment 8%
Abilities/Background different 8%
Ability to help me professionally 7%
Similar Income 4%
Similar Occupation 3%

WHY FRIENDSHIPS END

A study of over 200 men and women states:

Life Changes (moving, marriage, divorce, new career, birth of a child): 77%; Lack of Reciprocity (Balance in a relationship): 20%; Betrayal: 17% and Jealousy/Envy: 11%

Rules for Friendship

How to Apologize

Children's Literature

TYPES OF LOVE

Friendship

Family

Romantic

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships

Kalamazoo College

Recovery-Man

Contrasts in Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships

Common Relationship Problems and Solutions

Mental Health Matters: Relationship Issues

15 Traits of a Healthy Relationship

Relationship Issues

Love Doesn't Have to Hurt

Buffalo: Virtual Pamphlet Collection

AFFIRMATIONS/COMPLIMENTS/PRAISE

Praising Praise

Everything

How to grow a friend

Praise and Recognition

Praise that builds a child's Self-Esteem

Self-Affirmations

How to compliment a woman

10 ways to compliment a man

Art of the Compliment

Compliment/Praise and Employee's Work Performance

How to Apologize

ARTICLES

Relationships can make you sick